About collected by Caroline Desages
2014年3月7日In any case, it seems useful to keep in mind that we can do nothing to control what others think of us! Whatever our physical, others will think what they want from us (good or bad!) And we can not do anything ... It’s very unpleasant to be judged negatively by others, I the willingly grant: it is normal that we did not want that! But sometimes we spend too much energy not want to run that risk, then it is inevitable (even if it is a canon of beauty, there will always be someone to find us "too much" or "not enough "this or that ) !
This concern ( NOT be considered ( e) negatively by others) takes us into a logic of beauty - constraint: we move away from the pleasure of our beautiful / handsome, for ourselves , according to our tastes and preferences , rather trying to please others at any cost ... To accept yourself and reconnect with beauty , pleasure, freely chosen , it can help us to keep in mind that others may judge us positively , and sometimes , alas negatively ...
Jean -Philippe Zermati : " No need to appeal to love "
Love his image to love oneself , as is imperative that we obey all. And if we were wrong ? It is suggested that the physician nutritionist and psychotherapist Jean -Philippe Zermati , for which self-esteem is looking elsewhere than in the mirror.
About collected by Caroline Desages
Psychologies : To please and love , is not it the same thing ?
Jean -Philippe Zermati : Absolutely not. There ’s a real confusion has caused much suffering . When we speak of love , it does not refer to the same things when it comes to pleasing . Whether in relation to self or others . Please be physically depends on the distance that separates the perception we have of ourselves criteria of beauty commonly accepted by society. The more we feel close to , the more we like . And vice versa.
J.-P.Z. : Many unless it is pretend . To summarize , I would say what "beautiful" is a majority of people find beautiful. Many experiments were made on this subject, a show consisting of a panel of observers photos of individuals with different physical and asked them to choose the most beautiful . Whenever there is a consensus : everyone selects the same cliches.
This concern ( NOT be considered ( e) negatively by others) takes us into a logic of beauty - constraint: we move away from the pleasure of our beautiful / handsome, for ourselves , according to our tastes and preferences , rather trying to please others at any cost ... To accept yourself and reconnect with beauty , pleasure, freely chosen , it can help us to keep in mind that others may judge us positively , and sometimes , alas negatively ...
Jean -Philippe Zermati : " No need to appeal to love "
Love his image to love oneself , as is imperative that we obey all. And if we were wrong ? It is suggested that the physician nutritionist and psychotherapist Jean -Philippe Zermati , for which self-esteem is looking elsewhere than in the mirror.
About collected by Caroline Desages
Psychologies : To please and love , is not it the same thing ?
Jean -Philippe Zermati : Absolutely not. There ’s a real confusion has caused much suffering . When we speak of love , it does not refer to the same things when it comes to pleasing . Whether in relation to self or others . Please be physically depends on the distance that separates the perception we have of ourselves criteria of beauty commonly accepted by society. The more we feel close to , the more we like . And vice versa.
J.-P.Z. : Many unless it is pretend . To summarize , I would say what "beautiful" is a majority of people find beautiful. Many experiments were made on this subject, a show consisting of a panel of observers photos of individuals with different physical and asked them to choose the most beautiful . Whenever there is a consensus : everyone selects the same cliches.
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